Nobody Benefits When You Compromise Your Peace
Mike asked me recently when's the last time I took a day to just focus on myself and the things I want, rather than running around and making sure everybody else is happy and taken care of. I truthfully couldn't remember, and it got me thinking- how important is it that we take a day to just be?
The answer- it's super important.
It's important we take the time to check in with ourselves, or else we might start to lose ourselves.
Example- lately, I've been feeling overwhelmed. By nobody's fault, but outside sources have weighed heavy on my soul and I'm the kind of person who needs to be doing every single thing I can to take care of the people I love. I'm quick to feel guilty if I put myself first even once. Because of this, I've been spreading myself too thin. And my own peace has been the sacrifice.
At the time, I'm convinced I'm doing the right thing by giving all of myself to situations that demand my attention and putting my own well-being off until later. "I'll stay up later tonight to finish my resume," "I'll eat something quick instead of cooking the thoughtful dinner I had planned," and "I'll reschedule my doctor's appointment" are all actual thoughts I've rationalized in order to put something or someone else first. They might not seem like a big deal, but those little things add up and form into quite an unhealthy lifestyle.
I'm not saying we should all selfishly be out for ourselves and that's it. No way! I'll still (happily) continue to do anything I can to help my family and my friends, but you know that saying "You can't pour from an empty glass?" Dude. It's true. You can only give so much of yourself before there's just nothing left.
We work hard as it is. We deserve a day every now and then to be selfish. To do what feels good for ourselves. If that means binge watching Netflix, going to the gym, simply sitting down to read, write and switch our phone to "Do Not Disturb," - then so be it. Take some time.
"If it costs you your peace, it's too expensive"- Tiny Buddha
Bringing it back in
Here's something else to keep in mind. Our family, friends, kids, employers, employees, listeners, readers, students, etc. are not the only ones we need to answer to. And while we want to impress them, take care of them, be a good role model for them, we have to remember that the one and only most important person we have to answer to is ourselves.
As humans, we are always searching for ways we can be better, searching for the steps to reach our next accomplishment and become more successful. We get wrapped up in the notion that everything has to be better. All the time. What does this mean, exactly? It means we barely give ourselves time to relish in one accomplishment before we feel the pressure, whether it be from ourselves or outside sources, to pursue the next one!
Pause. I want you to look away from this blog post for one minute, grab a pen and some paper, and list 5 things you've accomplished in your life that you feel damn proud of. And just sit with that feeling for a moment. We should feel this all. the. time!!
I promise, allowing ourselves to feel satisfied won't deplete our motivation to reach bigger goals. Contrary to popular belief, we're allowed to celebrate the small steps and the in between moments, too.
So today I challenge you to just take some time and allow yourself to feel proud of everything that you've already accomplished thus far- little successes and big successes. And just rest. Dive back into those hobbies you've shoved aside. I challenge you to take a few minutes to sit with gratitude. Put your future plans on hold, just for a little while, to appreciate everything you already have in this moment. You've earned it. Soak in all the good feelings. You ARE entitled to them!
Sending all love,
Kimber is a fellow soul searcher, yoga instructor, and proud dog mama. She invites you along her own journey to wellness and hopes to inspire people to be the healthiest & happiest version of themselves every day!