Wednesday is here again, friends! I hope this post finds you all well and—if you live on the East coast—enjoying this beautiful fall weather today! This is the kind of Indian Summer weather that has my heart.
Annnyways, I’m just feeling super grateful for where I’m at in life. Don’t get me wrong, it’s still a work in progress. I still experience my ups and downs. But generally, life is good, man. I wake up happy, I find reasons throughout the day to smile, I’m calm and focused. It’s honestly a complete 180 from this time last year when I felt lost, unmotivated and had to force myself out of bed each morning. Today, I’m reflecting on the changes I made to start turning my life around and successfully inviting more happiness into it. One thing I’ve learned for sure is that when you do things to purposefully cultivate more joy and less stress into your life, you’ll find yourself waking up generally happier and with a better attitude throughout the day. And that’s something we all deserve!
So if your daily life could use some more love, keep these 5 things in mind that attract happiness, promote self-care and truly make your life just simply…better :)
Stop feeling obligated to do things that bring you no joy
It’s one thing to make a sacrifice here and there, (like when Mike sucks it up enough to watch a new episode of Grey’s Anatomy with me. hehe) but it’s quite another to entirely sacrifice your general happiness and contentment at the expense of others. Find balance in your relationship, workspace, or anywhere else you invest energy. Make sure to prioritize yourself, your dreams and happiness. Think about your life and where you’re currently making sacrifices, and if changes need to be made, write them down and start today. Do something for ya damn self.
Put more effort into your relationship
This doesn’t need to be a romantic relationship, per say. It could be a friendship, maybe your relationship with a family member. Whatever it is, really put some effort into it. Listen. Forgive. Share. Do things together! Partake in a genuine conversation instead of scrolling through your phone and half-listening. Let the people you love know how much you appreciate them. And be sure to nurture the relationship your have with YOURSELF, too, bringing me to my next point…
Spend time doing things that nourish your mind and body, and that fit your values. If you need to wake up a couple minutes earlier in the morning to fit in some self-care time, make it happen! (My favorite time to indulge in self-care is during my own mindful morning routine). The benefits will repay you tenfold. We know by now that self-care rituals don’t need to be extravagant or expensive, they just need to make us feel good, calm & refreshed.
Examples of simple self-care include slowly sipping your coffee in the morning, a homemade face mask, yoga practice/workout, taking time to meditate, breathing in some fresh air, cooking a healthy dinner, volunteering at an organization you’d like to support & refusing to take on somebody’s negative energy…which leads us to my next point—
cut out negativity
Sometimes we need to graciously cut ties with things or people that weave through our lives. It could be an unhealthy relationship, a current dreadful job, or any other stressor that only adds to the negativity in your life. There’s no need to keep that energy around, and there’s no need to feel remorse for outgrowing people and situations, either. Who you surround yourself with matters. The energy you allow into your space matters. Create a tribe of supportive, loving and inspiring people that you can grow and celebrate with.
I cannot stress it enough, peeps! It’s great to think about the things we want for ourselves, but the realllll magic happens when we start appreciating everything we ALREADY HAVE. It’s where we open ourselves up to endless possibiliites. You don’t need to write a huge list or anything, just think about one or two things you feel grateful for when you wake up in the morning. If you feel motivated, grab an old notebook and designate it your "Gratitude Journal.” This was truly life-changing for me :)
Simply put— Fill the spaces in your life with things that fulfill your soul. Things that will give you more time for love, and less time to complain or feel unhappy. Take the time to connect with yourself and your relationships. Eat healthy. Treat your body well. Move it. Dance. Play. Sing your heart out in the car. Let yourself feel free. Focus on the positives. Cultivate gratitude.
Happy living, y’all
Sending all love,